Monday, April 30, 2007

babies and etc


life makes sense when you see how simple a child can be...

Tuesday, April 24, 2007

School versus on-the-job

I came across the article below at CNNMoney.com. I thought the ideas resemble a bit to those of the famed Rich Dad, Poor Dad series wherein it says that schools don't necessarily teach at how to earn money, but they rather let you learn only the theories. It doesn't write off formal learning though, but it reiterates that social skills and a person's out-of-the-box thinking and abilities can also make one get to the top.

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The trouble with MBAs

Employers are finding that freshly minted graduates lack key interpersonal skills, so B-schools are changing to ensure that quantitative geniuses also learn how to hug it out.

By Anne Fisher, Fortune senior writer
April 23 2007: 6:31 AM EDT


(Fortune Magazine) -- When Jack Welch gave a guest lecture at MIT's Sloan School of Management in 2005, someone in the crowd asked, "What should we be learning in business school?" Welch's reply: "Just concentrate on networking. Everything else you need to know, you can learn on the job." Sloan's dean, Richard Schmalensee, was stunned because "Jack was essentially saying a graduate business degree was a waste of time."
Not long after that visit, MIT began a curriculum rethink - dialing back on pure quantitative skills and adding more interpersonal coursework. Wharton, Tuck, Chicago, the University of Virginia's Darden, and Berkeley's Haas School, among many others, have also started stressing teamwork and are paying more attention to "soft" skills like listening to colleagues.

What's driving the curriculum shift? B-schools are acting a lot more like businesses these days (gasp) and responding to their various customers - corporate recruiters and students. "MBA students we employ don't need to come in being finance gurus. What's much more important is that they know how to analyze issues and communicate recommendations," says Ken Barnet, a vice president at State Street Corp. (Charts, Fortune 500) who works with both B-school interns and freshly minted MBAs.

The numbers back up Barnet. Every year since 2002, the Graduate Management Admissions Council, which administers the GMAT exam for B-school applicants, has surveyed recruiters. And every year so far, the survey has revealed that several skills employers value most - like the ability to write and speak clearly and persuasively - are also skills that new MBAs lack.
Another spur for the ivory towers to change is competition from online degree programs, which have been eligible for federal student-loan funding since February 2006. Not only is an Internet degree more convenient to get, but a recent survey by employment site Vault.com says 81% of hiring managers look more favorably on job candidates with virtual sheepskins than they did five years ago, and 41% now think an online degree is just as good as a "real" one.

The syllabus changes are most noticeable at the hard-core quant schools. At the University of Chicago, the only course that every single MBA candidate must take in order to graduate is a communications and team-building course, in which specially trained second-year students coach and mentor newbies. Last year Chicago added Spring Launch, a series of seminars for graduating MBAs to help them polish their people skills before they rejoin the working world.
Likewise, in 2005, Wharton - home of econometrics and other arcane quantitative tools - began offering a leadership program that emphasizes one-on-one counseling from professional coaches. It's a hit: Enrollment has nearly doubled, from 50 students two years ago to 90 now. Balaji Krish, who came to Wharton from India by way of Silicon Valley, will graduate this spring. He says the altered curriculum has prepared him for a "team-oriented world. You work on ten to 15 different teams before you leave here."

Students, meanwhile, have pushed for some changes too - notably a greater focus on business ethics. Starting this fall, the Tuck School at Dartmouth will offer a course on using microfinance as a tool for alleviating global poverty. "They want to learn how to give shareholders a great return while also being balanced and principled. It's the double bottom line," says Tuck's dean Paul Danos.

That's not to say that plain old self-interest has fallen by the wayside. The Yale School of Management, for one, just added a required course for first-year students that teaches them how to plan a career, including how to cope with "stressors like job loss [and] aging," the course description says. Notes Jonathan Feinstein, the prof who designed and teaches the course: "We want to stretch their minds to realize that a career is a long-range project."
Ultimately that kind of thinking will help B-schools prosper too. "If our students leave here and get great first jobs but don't succeed in the long run, we've failed," says Stacey Kole, deputy dean of the full-time MBA program at Chicago. "We want them to be successful as their careers evolve." Employers, not to mention MBAs themselves, couldn't agree more.

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Guestlists and Guests

One of the hardest things in planning a wedding is coming up with your guest list. Part of our Pinoy culture is to invite everyone we know. Be it be our bosom friends, former classmates, colleagues, relatives up to the nth degree, acquaintances, family friends, even people we are not close with. An engaged couple is expected to generate the list most of the time just to please everybody and make happy anyone that will come along their way.

But in these hard times, it is just not practical to invite the whole bayan. Mainly because budget is such a huge consideration in making a wedding possible. Wedding reception comprises already the 60% of the total budget. And how much that percentage actually translates into cash depends on how many you are inviting.

Just where do you start writing the names? It is just as difficult as recalling which people have made your life totally worth it. Of course, your immediate family and relatives must be part of your special day. Your friends, colleagues, family friends, brothers and sister in the faith, which are currently and have been part of your lives, whether when you were single or engaged, count too.

You have all the names, but keeping them to your minimum number is a lot harder. When you’re working to a 150 list, you need all the necessary reasons why someone deserves the honor of being invited. After all, it will be an issue why someone was not part of the list (as if it was a royal wedding J ). Only the couple has the single right on who becomes a part of their special day. They will solely decide and no one has to intervene on that.

But just how satisfied a couple is with their guestlist after the wedding? Just as in any project or cashflow, expect something like 15-20% downfall with the forecast. In our case, some of the downfall cancelled a week before which allowed us to replace the slots. During the actual day, two tables were missing with people. These people were the ones who confirmed in attending but sadly, didn’t show up. It was really unfortunate. These were already counted and paid heads. It is really gracious that when you can’t really make it, let the couple know. I had friends who won’t be able to come who informed me days before or even the day itself. That is was well taken, since a lot of these people had their valid reasons for not coming. But there are some who really didn’t care. Not even a word. It is just not their disregard but the people who we might have taken in. We carefully made the list making sure that everyone important to us is there.

But if these people didn’t realize the inconsideration, we might as well invited people who are sincerely happy for us. We took out of the list friends whom we haven’t seen for years, but days after our wedding genuinely congratulated us. We excluded people whom there have been petty gaps, but were there when the family needed them. We wanted to save face, but it our own guilt that is affecting us. The uninvited members of the congregation were the ones who wished us really well the way we weren’t made feel by those invited. I remember one elderly brother who weakly shook our hands and expressed how joyful he is for us and how he thought we were perfectly made for each other. I felt so guilty that time I wanted to put up a party just for those not there during the day.

It was so heartwarming that there are people who really cared and genuine, which in turn, doesn’t mean that all invitees are as sincere as well. I recall a couple, who before our wedding, made comments to my then-fiancĂ© that they will be happy as long as he is happy and they will support him. In Filipino, kung saan ka masaya, suportahan taka. If I could just take them out of the list I would. Their remarks were distasteful and lacked proper breeding. They are quick in making judgments and conclusions. My only message is, Get all your facts right and It is your business to mind your own business!

But then again, it is said that you should never rely your happiness on your whether your guests had a great time, were ecstatic or were actually there at your wedding. After all, you can’t please everybody. Even if you treated them well or spent your last centavo just to serve them the elusive caviar, there will always be statements circulating, whether these are true or just figments of the imagination. I remember a wawie posting a message telling us that do not be sad if your guests had nasty comments, but be sad because you invited someone who is not able to appreciate the honor of being invited. This goes to those who forgot and those who had always something to say. But whatever it is, what is important is getting married. After all, after the wedding, it just falls down to the both of you.

Tuesday, August 15, 2006

48 Steps To A Happy Marriage

1. Start each day with a kiss.
2. Wear your wedding ring at all times.
3. Date once a week.
4. Accept differences.
5. Be polite.
6. Be gentle.
7. Give gifts.
8. Smile often.
9. Touch.
10. Talk about dreams.
11. Select a song that can be "our Song".
12. Give back rubs.
13. Laugh together.
14. Send a card for no reason.
15. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks.
16. Listen.
17. Encourage.
18. Do it his or her way.
19. Know his or her needs.
20. Fix the other person's breakfast.
21. Compliment twice a day.
22. Call during the day.
23. Slow down.
24. Cuddle.
25. Ask for each other's opinion.
26. Show respect.
27. Welcome the other person home.
28. Look your best.
29. Wink at each other.
30. Celebrate birthdays in a big way.
31. Apologize.
32. Forgive.
33. Set up a romantic getaway.
34. Ask, "What can I do to make you happier?".
35. Be positive.
36. Be kind.
37. Be vulnerable.
38. Respond quickly to the other person's request.
39. Talk about your love.
40. Treat each other's friends and relatives with courtesy.
41. Send flowers every Valentine's Day and anniversary.
42. Admit when wrong.
43. Be sensitive to each other's sexual desires.
44. Pray for each other daily.
45. Watch sunsets together.
46. Say "I love you" frequently.
47. End the day with a hug.
48. Seek outside help when needed

Friday, June 30, 2006

busy schedule, busy lives

Some updates and what happened in the past weeks:

May 30
Trial Makeup and Prenup Pictorial

We had our joint trial HMU and prenup pictorial. HMU is done by Angie Cruz and Ogie Rayel, prenup pics are by Dino Lara. Angie and Ogie are freelance hair and makeup artists who usually does the makeup of Summit Magazine models. I came to know them thru WeddingsAtWork, and they are currently garnering a lot of great reviews there. Dino, as I have posted in my previous post, was a favorite photographer of mine. I felt that I have to go get all my means just to be able to hire him.

Our trial makeup lasted for around 1 ½ hours. Angie and Ogie create really good makeup that would complement one’s features. Angie did a number which looked like Claudine’s makeup on her day. When I looked at my makeup, it seemed makapal for me, but my fiancĂ© said it looked great. Feeling ko lang makapal because hindi ako sanay using pink and brown on my eyes. But when I saw the pictures, my makeup registered very nicely. And I liked how my skin turned out, it was really glowing! I think Angie uses primer kaya ganun. My hair was also pretty, it hid my large forehead. I had an idea in mind on how I wanted my hair, and Ogie was conceptualizing the same. My hair turned out really awesome.

Then came the photo shoot. Robert of Dino Lara was the one who did the photos for us, and will also be the one assigned on our day. Robert is really good and really funny, as in F-U-N-N-Y! As Gracita had described him, he is like Willie Revillame. Dino said that Robert is a part-time photographer and full-time clown. Robert makes us laugh all during the shoot. Kaya in our pictures, M. and I had those big smiles, which is good I think kasi our smiles look really natural and hindi pilit. I was really mahiyain during the shoot, which is ironic kasi I’m a photo addict. I’m not used lang to studio pictorials. Surprisingly, husband-to-be is really comfortable and was game during the shoot.

After the studio shoot, we went to Makati Park for our outdoor shot. We wanted a place na somewhere near lang since we wanted to do away with the fuss of long drives and enduring traffic. Makati Park is a nice place and I knew there were a lot of couples who also have their outdoor shots done there. Yun lang, they need pa permit before we can shoot. Dino’s team usually encounter problems na even if they have permits, the guards would still ask them which takes away a lot of time. Reason why we had to be discreet. I put Robert’s camera on my bag and pretended to be walking around. When the guards weren’t looking (I’m surprised that there were a LOT of guards there, even more than a bank has!), Robert went to a nearby area, behind a small tree, and started taking pictures. Then we projected naman our picture-worthy poses and mega-watt smiles. We were laughing kasi Robert was hiding pala behind a trash can! Nakakatuwa sya kasi game talaga. When we saw the pics (we got them after the shoot, burn kagad si Robert upon returning to the studio), ang gaganda ng outputs! Raw shots pa lang yun pero panalo na. What more if they had put effects pa. I’m really looking forward to our wedding pics and how they will make those look more dramatic. One of our best suppliers talaga. Worth the price. J

And on another note, when I went home after all the studio and outdoor pictorial, my makeup is still intact and my face didn’t become a bit oily. Galing galing talaga nila Angie and Ogie. My mom said my makeup looks great and she wanted the same MU for her!

June 2, 2006
Gown Fitting with Cecilio

After braving the rain, we went to Cecil’s shop for my second fitting and Mike first of his suit. We’re were late for our appointment, buti na lang meron pang client si Cecil kaya hindi nainip waiting for us. I think that client of him was getting married in a few days. I can feel the excitement of the bride and groom and the family. Ganun din siguro kami days before the big day.

Mike went in to fit his suit. Goodness, he looked great! His suit suited him really awesome. According to Cecil, hind daw lahat ng guys bagay magsuit. But on Mike, he said bagay na bagay. I then went in to fit my gown. At first I thought di pa na-zip kaya maluwag. Yun pala, talagang maluwag! I lost na naman weight. I don’t know if I’m gonna be worried na baka I might be the anorexic bride, but I think it’s too late na to gain weight kasi my gown is again adjusted. But my weight now is my ideal weight for my height, and this is the first time in a long time na I actually can tell I’m really slim na. hindi lang ako sanay with my current weight.

June 17
Do It Youself Souvenirs

We started making our souvenirs which are gel candles with actual Boacay sand and real shells at the bottom. We were able to finish all 90 pieces, but sans the gel yet. We have to secure help pa with our expert friends on how to do it. Pero madali na lang daw yun. In just 4 hours, we finished the designing of the Boracay sand and various shells on the bottom of the glasses. They are all awesome! After we will put the gel, we plan to paste on each a clear sticker with our momogram and our wedding date on it. We got the idea from theknot.com. We hope our guests would love them. Our souvenirs describe our love for the beach and our wedding theme as well.